Ummm, for real tho… can someone comment!

America, we revealed our identities weeks ago and no one has commented on that! I think it’s comment worthy. I love this pic of me and Jolie. Recognize! That’s all I’m saying. lol

30 plus and living at home.. NEED NOT APPLY

Admin Note: This has nothing to do with my current bf. He doesnt live at home. Thats why he is my bf (well not the only reason).. and If he did ..well he would be. lol~~~~Jolie

Would you date a man or women who was 30 and over and lives at home?

I wouldn’t because I am looking for a man who can take care of himself. Although I like to take care of my man.

For example:

My friends brother still lives at home, and he just turned 30 – and by “Still” I mean he has never left home at all, nor does he have any intention to any time soon.

It’s a pity, he’d be a great catch – He owns a very successful business, is good looking, kind and sweet – But it is so obvious to me that any woman within the age bracket that he would date at 30 (perhaps 24-30) would probably overlook all of his qualities simply because living at home means he has never had to take care of himself – so how could a woman know that he will take care of them?

He has never had to cook, clean, mow lawns or pay bills… I imagine the woman he does end up with will have to be more of a mother figure than an equal partner! It is sad, but I think that most people do find it a big turn off!

So I know how most women feel since I’m a woman. Most of my friends wouldn’t date a 30 yr old man who lived at home.

So I asked the men if they would date a 30 year old woman who lived at home. I even asked my own boyfriend.

The answer was a resounding YES, they would. Here’s one of the convo’s I had:

BF:  but some women think they should move from the family home to their husbands home

jolie: so you stop one half of your life waiting on a man to come along and take the place of your parents and thats attractive? hmm.. interesting

BF: I didn’t say it was

jolie: and how do you know how to take care of house and a husband if all you’ve ever done is what your mama told you to do or let your mama do it? people want a partner not a child at least that’s what I thought

bf: but men are not as picky when it comes to women

jolie: DAMN .. maybe I need to move home then..

bf: lol. Men don’t put the same standards on women that women put on men.not that it’s fair

bf: just know that being 30 and living at home would not stop a dude from dating you

I mean damn if I had known this I wouldn’t work so hard to increase my viability. I would probably focus more on gym time than breaking that glass ceiling. I would probably also drive a better car cause after all I am staying home with moms. Lol.

Disclaimer: this does not apply to people who move back home to take care of sick parents, people who have recently been laid off, etc. I am generalizing for 30 plus men/women who have good jobs, fairly educated and able to live at least with a roommate.

So good readers.. would you date someone 30 plus that lived at home?

An Ode to RaShawn

Hello America! I haven’t written anything in awhile because I really didn’t have much to write about until last night.

For some reason a friend of mine who I hadn’t spoken to in over 6 months came across my mind. So, I decided to hit him up on his FB page. I go on the page to find out that he passed away!…. In March! One day he found out he had a brain tumor and he was gone from us within a month. (His sister wrote me a note telling me what had happneded).

Needless to say, I am thoroughly shocked. It’s been on my mind all night. He was such a great person. Very funny, always the life of the party. I could just hang out with him and have a good time. Now I feel horrible for not keeping in better contact.

So I decided to post one of his blogs on the site. This one in particular is exactly how I remember him.

live life. do right. be humble. love God.

-FeFe

VERIZON WIRELESS

So….I’m at the club on a Friday night, and it was one of those Fridays nights were I just had everything working….Smelling good, check….Looking fly, check….Mojo, Check!!!! It Felt like as soon as I walked in, it was like all eyes on me. Like the crowd was just blacked out and I had the lights on me!! Your boy Rodrigo had a good night at the club….I think that night I messed around and got a triple double. It was around 3:30am and I’m looking at my phone contact list and see how it just multiplied in a matter of hours!!! Ant drove that night, so I took it little bit farther than usual with the drinks…On the way back to the whip, I realized I still had a cup full of Vodka waiting for me in the car…oh happy day….Nothing like leaving the club happy and knowing you still have that night cap waiting for the ride home….Little did I know, that, that cup of Vodka will play an intricate role in my life on Saturday……

Needless to say, I went to sleep in the whip about the same time Ant turned the ignition to start the car. I’m pretty sure I went to sleep with a smile on my face due to the productive night. When I wake up that next morning, I’m looking for my phone to look at my progress. I look in my pants pocket….NO PHONE….I look in the living room…NO PHONE….I look in my shoes, under the bed, the kitchen…NO PHONE!!!!!!….at this point I start to panic and try to re-think….no success…Don’t panic, Rodrigo, Don’t panic Rodrigo…Then it hit me….”I run and BANG on Ant’s door and ask him to see his car keys…He throws the keys at me, I run to the car look under the seat, on the side of the doors and then I lift my head up only to see my new Verizon phone in the same cup of Vodka that I planned on drinking when I got in the car!!( It was back when that new Verizon phone came out, the flip phone joint. I was like the only one with it at the that time…I’m sure that phone probably contributed to like 3 numbers that night, due to ladies not knowing about it)

I grab my new phone out the cup and watch the Vodka drip from my Qwerty keyboard. I run in the house like I’m running a 100 yard dash, I hop over the couch and run to get a dry towel, a match, some ice, and a cup. I remove the battery and start to wipe the phone and the battery down…I hit the power button, and no response…I start to administer phone CPR…still no response….I take the cup, add the ice, and start to drink more Vodka(Bad Idea)….I try CPR one more time, this time with the charger plugged up…zzzzzz, I GET A NOISE AND A DIMMER OF LIGHT!!!!!!! By this time J30 is in the building I jump up with-out spilling my Vodka..Yell at J30 to Grab the Vodka and pull the Car around, it’s still a chance to save my phone. I put my phone in the dry towel and run to the car, I slide over the hood and jump in the passenger seat…were speeding to the mall the get to the Verizon store to try and save my phone…the drinks are flowing in a constant manner the whole way there. I get to the store and notice a long line…it was no time to wait in line…I go straight to the front of the line despite a few threats and some disgruntle individuals. I get to the counter and I show the lady my phone and she says, there is nothing we can do, it has water damage!!! I tell her she’s wrong…I knew it didn’t have water damage…it had Vodka damage, two completely different things in my eyes. After that didn’t work, i say to myself, i’m a good looking guy, i’ll use my looks, females do it all the time. So, i ask her, whats her name throw a little smart comments in there and then the Vodka kicks in….I tell her what can we do to make this situation right? I was being way to aggressive, once she found out it was about the phone and not her, I was denied in every sense of the word!!! After me and her going back and forth for a good amount of time, I say can I speak to your manager. Soon as the manager comes over, I decide to tell him that I’m a rapper on Tour and I need my phone….Every time he tries to talk, I don’t let him…I couldn’t take anymore bad news. At this point, I do the unthinkable……I fill my tear ducts up with water and tell him that I have a lot of important things on that phone and I need it to work!! He looks at me in a shocked manner. He is totally confused at this point…He leaves the front and walks in the back to tell his co-workers that a grown man is on the verge of tears…I’m in the front lobby pulling a hissy fit…I lay down in the middle of the store in a manner that would make a two year old happy…I start using the verizon’s store personal phone and start making Long Distant phone calls back home! I’m still pretty shakin’ up about my phone while I’m waiting on a verdict, I decide to sign a couple of autographs and do a little stand-up comedy in the store…everyone is laughing and having a good time…then I look outside and notice a few security guards, I don’t pay them any attention…Sh!t, I was a rapper in the need of assistance, they couldn’t tell me anything!! Then the Verizon store manager comes back to the lobby….*drum roll*…..Mr. Calhoun, we will replace your phone. Oh Sh!t…Oh Sh!t…oh Sh!t….I felt like I just beat a case…I’m jumping around the store giving high fives, signing more autographs, and I Start break dancing!!!! People in the store are actually celebrating with me!! I got a new Phone, I was able to save all my numbers, and I was able to save my pictures!!!

Their is only one Rodrigo Calhoun and That’s ME!!!!!!

so relaxing..

whoever said, “vacations ruin relationships” was dead arse wrong. We took a mini-vacay to Ocean City, Maryland and it was great. I had a fab time. I think he did too. It was very relaxing just chilling by the ocean. He was great company and we had a whole cooler of great things I prepared for our trip: curry chicken salad sandwiches on croissants,  pineapple, cherries, grapes, drinks and some DRANK.

This song kept creeping in my head the whole time. On the Ocean by K’ Jon

How was your weekend? I think everyone should get away even for a weekend every now and again.

Jolie

The Update: Jolie Edition

Not that you care or maybe some of you do or maybe its just out of pure nosieness but I’ll let you into what’s been going on in my life.

• The Manicane is dead due to the fact that I now have a boyfriend. He is great. He’s everything so far that I listed that I wanted in order to actually commit to a relationship. He gets me. He laughs at my jokes and everything is easy with us. (In my opinion.. his opinion may differ.. lol)

• I’m still looking for a new job but in the meantime I have been promoted. Its not as great and glamorous as it may seem. I have duties from the old job, plus new ones for the low low price of a 6% raise. But at least I have a job right?

• I thought about renting out my condo and moving someplace else that was cheaper but I just found out that renting it out wouldn’t save me anything. I’d still have to pay a lil something on it for what I would rent it out for and I can’t just live anywhere so I’m staying put.

• FeFe and I we do less Ego Boost Tours. Not because I have a bf. I see my friends just as much as I did before even though he’s in my life. I don’t stop my life for a relationship. I incorporate them into my life. I think if most people did this they would have what I will call relationship/life balance… kinda like work/life balance. You need your space. They need there’s. They need their friends. You need yours. Although I enjoy every minute I spend with him.

• I’ve been super stressed at work. This guy got in my face last week literally less than a foot away and put his hand close to my face. It took every piece of me to control myself from not losing my diction, composure, and not cursing him out.

• Since coming off Daniel’s fast after lent. I have been a very bad girl. No discipline whatsoever. I really need to focus my energy on getting my mind together to focus on starting this again. Not only for health purposes but for spirituality and meditation.. I felt so good when I was on Daniel’s fast. I’m going to the beach this weekend so it will have to start afterwards. I am SO NOT BEACH READY.. but I need the downtime and I’m sure there will be plenty of none beach ready bodies out there.

• I’ll be 28 this year 6 months from Sunday

• I might abandon this blog and start a cooking blog. It will involve small parts of my life and travels but cooking and baking is where my heart is an where my future lies for business ventures I’d like to persue. Stay Tuned.

There’s the update folks. Anything you want to know? Any questions for me? Just wanna say Hi? Lol

Love,

Jolie

Quote of the day..

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.

By Helen Keller

I’m no expert by far but..

in my lifetime I’ve met a lot of great people built great relationships both platonic and romantic and what I have learned is that..

Good relationships are worth their weight in gold. It doesn’t take a genius to recognize that when your time on this Earth comes to it’s conclusion you will measure your life by the good relationships you have built and enjoyed. Well at least I know I will.

Good relationships make you feel good. The one I’m in right now makes me feel all warm inside like a beach on a sunny day. Therefore it’s worth investing your time, money and energy in order to discover how to create and keep pleasurable relationships.

 Great relationships whether romantic or friendships add a spark to your life it helps with the mundane doldrums. So how do you go about finding and keeping a good relationship, because so many people seem to have difficulty with this? I HAVE NO EFFIN CLUE.. but here are 2 tips I use in building good relationships (romantic or friendships)

1. The best relationships are built on authenticity

One of the characteristics of good relationships is that they are forged between people who are authentic. What does that mean? ‘To thine own self be true.’

Learn to sink back into who you really are… and you’ll become far more attractive person.

3. Prioritize your values

When you acknowledge your love relationships are at the top of your values list and live accordingly, you will naturally do what you need to do to build and keep good relationships. Keeping their importance in mind as you live your relationships will provide a filter which will ensure you ‘do the right thing’ moment to moment. Good relationships are built over time with creative effort, care and attention. Many people make great efforts to get hitched and then let themselves go, becoming lazy and indifferent to their relationship. Couples in good relationships do the opposite. They constantly work to keep adding value to the relationship. Happy couples are thoughtful of each other. They invest time, energy and money in expressing their adoration and demonstrating it  in creative, fun ways that honor each other and make their relationship so good.

If you’re not willing to at least do these two things.. I don’t think you can truly be ready to be in a relationship..

 

The quote that sticks out to me at this moment is..

 

if a man/woman wants something that he’s/she’s never had before, he’s/she’s got to do something he’s/she’s never done before.

 

What do you do to build strong relationships/friendships?

I GOT STOOD UP!

 

This is a Rant…

 

• I GOT STOOD UP ON SATURDAY NIGHT! Yes, stood up! And I don’t play that shit.
  • So I just started back dating at the beginning of the month. I met this guy we went out 3 times. The fourth date was supposed to be sat night. I call when I am on my way to meet him and… no answer. THAT’S SOME WACK SHIT…. Did he not see my video vixen self?!?!

 

• DATING SUCKS… I’ve always said this, but I abso HATE dating.
• I am trying very hard not to revert to the old Serial Dater FeFe. I got stood up, but of course I had a plan b. I had a great time with my plan b. But now I am feeling like I need a plan C and D… and that’s the old FeFe and I don’t want to regain that feeling that I have GOT to be with someone all the time.
• Alas, this is a battle of good and evil. A tug of war of morals and progress vs. fun and stagnation…. Woe

Here is the story of what happened: (I was telling a friend of mine over gchat)

me:         so dude that stood me up called

                and you know what…

                I AM A CHANGED WOMAN

 I didn’t even revel in the fact that it could’ve been a juicy story

 Thomas: Really now?

 me: i just told him it was messed up and disrespectful and not to call me again

Thomas: Wow

 me: yes he called tonight… 3 DAYS LATER

Thomas: The 3 day rule

 me: yeah he figured I wouldn’t be mad anymore

                that was his rationale

                and its true…. I’m not mad

I told him “why would i be mad… it’s not like we’ve been friends since kindergarten and you betrayed me… I don’t even know you”

 Thomas: Wow

 me: “but common courtesy and respect for humankind would tell you that you should call and let someone know you cant make it”

Thomas: Yup

  You right

 me: so he says “you’re right. I’m wrong. I can be kind of selfish sometimes”

  “i say… no I’m selfish. I don’t like to share… that’s what being selfish is”

“you are disrespectful and have no regard for my time. and i am also led to believe that this is normal behavior for you. its just what you do. you eff up and then try to make it up later. i can see this pattern already and ive only known you for 3 weeks!  and I don’t play that.”

 Thomas: Crucial

 me: “there’s a major difference”

  so then he apologizes again and says he will call me at work tomorrow

  womp

  so I was going to play along but then i thought… there is no time for all this shit. I DON’T EVEN KNOW HIM so I sent him a text telling him not to call anymore

 Thomas: Man…Cold blooded

me: men r a trip

 Thomas: But you did the right thing

 

EL FIN

Question of the day.

 

How can you truly be open for love if you dont allow love to truly open you?

So lovely readers and lurkers.. any opinions?

I was watching Gotti’s Way 2 …

and he said ” A man doesnt know if he really likes a woman until after he sleeps with her.. “

I started to think to myself. Is this true?

 Its possibly be true. I’ve dated men for months thought they were great possibly a good candidate for  THE ONE.. then we have s&x and I’m done. Like I dont want them to talk to me. I dont want them to touch me. I no longer like them AT ALL..

SO maybe Gotti is right?

What do you think?